Last week we gathered together to celebrate a dear friend’s 82nd birthday. She is afflicted with Alzheimer’s disease. Although she did not remember her friends, many who she had worked with, they reminisced with her and shared fond memories of good times. She was delighted to listen to the stories which were emerging from the hazy fog of her current state. Yet, there was much laughter and kind sharing from the heart as well as a little singing.
When she opened her presents, she was surprised to discover her pretty new outfits and we read out loud the endearing sentiments expressed in her cards. This was followed by birthday cake and a lit candle to make a wish. All was a joyful reunion.
And she won’t remember any of this soon after everyone leaves but that does not diminish the blessings of the occasion. She experienced and embraced every moment with pure enjoyment.
An epiphany arose as I realized that my friend lives in the present moment! She has reached a state that all spiritual teaching point towards but is so difficult to achieve. She no longer holds onto the past and not does worry about the future. She is a t peace and enjoys life each day.
My friend loves to sing. During the day listens to music on the big screen TV in the big family room of the B & C and sings spiritual hymns to her hearts content all throughout the day. She knows all the words to all the songs and she has a nice voice. Whenever I pop in to see her, she is so happy to see me but each time she thinks it has been a long time since I visit even though I visit 2-3xs per week.
Right now, she is in a sweet spot of peace and contentment. However, I know that her disease is progressive and she will continue to decline. I have accompanied my friend throughout her Alzheimer’s journey and there have been some really rough patches. I worry enough for the both of us. But for now, I am extremely grateful to sing along with her.
~Liz Sorensen Wessel
